Greater Good Magazine has just posted an interesting article on the Daddy Brain – my own brain to come. The writer Jeremy Adam Smith (author of The Daddy Shift) delves through scientific literature from the anthropologist Margret Mead who exclaimed the father as a biological necessity but a social accident, to more progressive ones such as Katherine Wynne-Edwards who purports that important biochemical changes occur if the father is present early on in both the child’s and the mother’s lives. Much psychological and neuroscientific research is challenging Mead’s old-fashion view of the redundant father. Sad things for all us guys that are looking to boost our metabolism and weight training skills, research have shown that testosterone levels plunge right after birth following an uprise of the catabolic stress hormone cortisol. Not nice, but it is supposed to help me prepare for the caring of the child.
Plenty of blogs and web pages focus on the daddy, alas, they’re mostly utter crap and almost no one is writing from the dad-friendly Sweden. When I say crap I really mean crap, check out Discovering Dad and its workout tips: Fitness for Dads – The “S” Factors: Three Reasons You May Not Be Burning Fat. Yeah, the most important to the child is afat-free daddy. Or consider the famous Swedish Mommy blogger and writer Ann Söderlund and one of her greatest latest blog entries: Help! How do I find the perfect bikini? What the f***
But on the other hand, in the world of literary fiction the father is a recurring theme to make most shallow heads look like a god honest Susan Sontag. During the recent years three well-exposed books on dads have been published by Alex Schulman, Åsa Linderborg and Hanna Hellquist. The trouble with the father figure seems to be that they are notoriously crappy, according to most of these books, but somehow their children grow up to be quite happy successful anyways. That is just a bit depressing for a dad-to-be as me, since I am trying my best just to be the person I would like to be (without the child), and now life is opening up a new identity that will partially take over my personal vernacular altogether. I need positive input!
Well the crazy perils of consumption and choice when preparing for the toddler at home has been described over and over by Barry Schwartz, but they should be even more updated. I am trying to cope with the things that I now ”have to” buy. New York Times yesterday reported on new research by the all children-friendly Walt Disney Companyin their trials to find out which ads we tend to watch on the web and which ones to dump.
Webpage about dads that I like: http://www.dad.info
Here are some other literary descriptions of The Father:
King Lear by Shakespeare
Bergsprängardottern som exploderade by Lo Kauppi
Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer
The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini
About a Boy by Nick Hornby